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Summary of Rabbinic Center for Research and Counseling 2003 Survey

December 29, 2003 Irwin H. Fishbein, Rabbi, D. Min.  

This survey has a threefold purpose: 1) to determine the present position of the Reform and Reconstructionist rabbinate on intermarriage officiation, 2) to compare data with previous Rabbinic Center surveys and 3) to update the list of rabbis who officiate at intermarriages. A questionnaire with four levels of participation and non-participation in intermarriage ceremonies and twenty officiating conditions was sent by first class mail to 1842 rabbinic members of the Central Conference of American Rabbis (CCAR) and to 219 members of the Reconstructionist Rabbinical Association (RRA). Of the 818 respondents, representing a 40% response rate, twenty-one were excluded due to lack of sufficient data. Of the remaining 797 respondents, 402 or 50% officiate at intermarriages under specified conditions, 302 or 38% do not officiate but are willing to refer to rabbis who do, and 93 or 12% neither officiate nor refer. A comparison of CCAR and RRA respondents indicates that RRA members officiate more frequently (55% compared to 50%) and that, when categories of officiation and referral are combined, 95% of RRA members refer, compared to 88% of CCAR members (see Table 1).1

1 Because of the comparatively small number of RRA members and the possibility of sampling error, care should be taken in drawing inferences from these numbers both here and in the data that follow.

TABLE 1

COMPARISON OF CCAR AND RRA RESPONDENTS 2003

POSITION CCAR RRA CCAR/RRA TOTAL
# % # % # %
OFFICIATE 358 50 46 55 402 50
REFER 274 38 33 40 302 38
DO NOT REFER 89 12 4 5 93 12
TOTAL RESPONDENTS 721 100 83 100 7972 10

2 The total number of respondents, as well as the total number for each category, differs from the sum of CCAR and RRA respondents because seven respondents belong to both organizations.

Of the 402 rabbis who officiate, 275 were willing to have their names on the list of C.C.A.R. and R.R.A. Rabbis Who Officiate at Intermarriages, while 127 or 32% were not willing. The List now comprises 336 rabbis, an 11% increase over the 294 rabbis in 1999. Sixty-one of those on the new list did not respond to the survey questionnaire and were carried over from the previous list. Since 1969, the number of Reform and Reconstructionist rabbis on The List has increased fivefold, while the number of rabbis in the two movements has doubled (see Table 2).

TABLE 2

RESPONDENTS WHO OFFICIATE AT INTERMARRIAGES 1982-2003

 

POSITION

1982

1986

1990

1995

1999

2003

CCAR

CCAR

CCAR/RRA

CCAR/RRA

CCAR/RRA

CCAR

RRA

CCAR/RRA

#

%

#

%

#

%

#

%

#

%

#

%

#

%

#

%

LIST

178

61

202

73

220

62

231

69

262

67

248

69

280

61

275

68

NON-LIST

115

39

76

27

135

38

103

31

127

33

110

31

18

39

127

32
TOTAL RESPONDENTS

293

100

278

100

355

100

334

100

350

100

358

100

46

100

402

100

A comparison of survey results from 1982 to 2003 indicates that the percentage of rabbis officiating at intermarriages has returned to the 50% level first recorded in 1982 and 1986, while the three last surveys averaged 45%. However, this divergence may not be statistically significant. What is clear is that among rabbis who do not officiate, the historical data continue to show a small but steady decline in the percentage of rabbis who do not refer (see Table 3). The percentage of Reconstructionist rabbis in this category has now dropped to five percent.

TABLE 3

COMPARISON OF CCAR AND RRA RESPONDENTS 1982-2003

 

POSITION

1982

1986

1990

1995

1999

2003

CCAR

CCAR

CCAR/RRA

CCAR/RRA

CCAR/RRA

CCAR

RRA

CCAR/RRA

#

%

#

%

#

%

#

%

#

%

#

%

#

%

#

%

OFFICIATE

293

50

278

50

355

44

334

47

389

43

354

49

46

55

402

50

REFER

180

31

174

32

302

38

274

39

403

44

273

38

33

40

302

38

DO NOT REFER

109

19

100

18

141

18

102

14

122

13

89

12

4

5

93

12

TOTAL RESPONDENTS

582

100

552

100

798

100

710

100

914

100

716

100

88

100

797

100

Among rabbis who officiate at intermarriages, those who participate with non-Jewish clergy is now 42%, an increase of 10% from 1999. While still few in absolute numbers, 20% more rabbis are now officiating in churches or chapels where Christian symbols are visible. Reconstructionist rabbis continue to maintain a slightly more traditional stance than their Reform colleagues with respect to the conditions under which they are willing to officiate (see Table 4). A new condition, officiating at commitment ceremonies for same sex intermarried couples, was included for the first time. Although excluded from the Table below because no comparative data is available, the results indicate that almost two-thirds of the rabbis who officiate at intermarriages will officiate at same sex intermarried ceremonies.

TABLE 4

CONDITIONS OF OFFICIATING 1982-2003

SELECTED CONDITIONS 1982 1986 1990 1995 1999

2003

CCAR CCAR CCAR/RRA CCAR/RRA CCAR/RRA CCAR RRA CCAR/RRA
% % % % % # % # % # %
Commitment to establish Jewish home and/or raise children as Jews 68 67 65 43 70 224 63 31 67 254 63
Rabbi to the only officiant 62 59 62 44 61 184 51 24 52 208 52
Participate with non-Jewish clergy 38 31 31 27 39 153 43 17 37 168 42
Officiate in a church or chapel where Christian symbols are visible 6 9 9 8 10 45 13 5 11 50 12

The data confirm that the percentage of rabbis who do not refer to other rabbis continues to decrease gradually, while the percentage of those willing to participate with non-Jewish clergy continues to increase. The resolutions adopted by the CCAR and RRA against co-officiation have undoubtedly dissuaded some colleagues but they have not been able to stem the trend toward more co-officiation. I conjecture that the pressure of the resolutions is counterbalanced by rabbis, who are more psychologically aware and culturally attuned than at any time in the past, and whose sensitivity to the struggles of the average Jew has been honed in the crucible of congregational and community life.

Reform and Reconstructionist rabbis continue to indicate that they are increasingly seeking more creative ways to affirm and support intermarried couples and their families before and after marriage, as well as at the wedding ceremony. This acknowledgment of the need to respond creatively to intermarriage and the concerns of Jewish laity has also prompted both laity and rabbis to recognize that all rabbis wrestle with whether or not to officiate at intermarriages and that the issue is just as difficult for rabbis who officiate as for those who choose not to.

Summary of Rabbinic Center for Research and Counseling 1999 Survey

November 1, 1999 Irwin H. Fishbein, Rabbi, D. Min.  

This survey has a threefold purpose: 1) to determine the present position of the Reform and Reconstructionist rabbinate on officiating at intermarriages, 2) to compare data with previous Rabbinic Center surveys and 3) to update the list of rabbis who officiate at intermarriages. A questionnaire with four levels of participation and non-participation in intermarriage ceremonies and eighteen conditions of officiating was sent by first class mail to 1929 rabbinic members of the Central Conference of American Rabbis (CCAR) and of the Reconstructionist Rabbinical Association (RRA). Of this number, 1752 are members of the CCAR and 177 are members of the RRA.

Of the 914 respondents, representing a 47% response rate, 389 or 43% officiate at intermarriages under specified conditions, 403 or 44% do not officiate but are willing to refer to rabbis who do, and 122 or 13% neither officiate nor refer. A comparison of CCAR and RRA respondents indicates that RRA members officiate more frequently (47% compared to 42%) and that, when categories of officiation and referral are combined, 92% of RRA members refer compared to 86% of CCAR members (see Table 1).1

1 Because of the comparatively small number of RRA members and the possibility of sampling error, care should be taken in drawing inferences from these numbers both here and in the data that follow.

TABLE 1

COMPARISON OF CCAR AND RRA RESPONDENTS 1999

POSITION CCAR RRA CCAR/RRA TOTAL
# % # % # %
OFFICIATE

350

42

42

48

389

43

REFER

364

44

39

44

403

44

DO NOT REFER

116

14

7

8

122

13

TOTAL RESPONDENTS

830

100

88

100

9142

100

2 The total number of respondents, as well as the total number for each category, differs from the sum of CCAR and RRA respondents because four respondents belong to both organizations.

Of the 389 rabbis who officiate, 262 or 67% were willing to have their names on the list of C.C.A.R. and R.R.A. Rabbis Who Officiate at Intermarriages, while 127 or 33% requested that their names not be on the list. The list now comprises 294 rabbis, a 29% increase over the 231 rabbis on the list in 1995. Thirty-two of those on the new list did not respond to the survey questionnaire and were carried over from the previous list. Since 1969 the number of Reform and Reconstructionist rabbis on the list has increased almost fivefold, while the number of rabbis in the two movements has doubled (see Table 2).

TABLE 2

RESPONDENTS WHO OFFICIATE AT INTERMARRIAGES 1982-1999

 

POSITION

1982

1986

1990

1995

1999

CCAR

CCAR

CCAR/RRA

CCAR/RRA

CCAR

RRA

CCAR/RRA

#

%

#

%

#

%

#

%

#

%

#

%

#

%

LIST

178

61

202

73

220

62

231

69

242

69

22

52

262

67

NON-LIST

115

39

76

27

135

38

103

31

108

31

20

48

127

33

TOTAL RESPONDENTS

293

100

278

100

355

100

334

100

350

100

41

100

389

100

A comparison of survey results from 1982 to 1999 indicates that the percentage of officiating rabbis has decreased from a high of 50% in 1982 and 1986 to a low of 43% in the current survey — a statistic very similar to the 41% rate documented in the C.C.A.R. commissioned Rabbi and Synagogue in Reform Judaism by T. I. Lenn (1972). Among rabbis who do not officiate the historical data continue to show a small but steady increase in the percentage of rabbis who are willing to refer to other rabbis and a corresponding decrease in the percentage of rabbis who do not refer (see Table 3).

TABLE 3

COMPARISON OF CCAR AND RRA RESPONDENTS 1982-1999

 

POSITION

1982

1986

1990

1995

1999

CCAR

CCAR

CCAR/RRA

CCAR/RRA

CCAR

RRA

CCAR/RRA

#

%

#

%

#

%

#

%

#

%

#

%

#

%

OFFICIATE

293

50

278

50

355

44

334

47

350

42

42

47

389

43

REFER

180

31

174

32

302

38

274

39

364

44

39

45

403

44

DO NOT REFER

109

19

100

18

141

18

102

14

116

14

7

8

122

13

TOTAL RESPONDENTS

582

100

552

100

798

100

710

100

830

100

88

100

914

100

Among rabbis who officiate at intermarriages, the number of rabbis who participate with non-Jewish clergy has increased 12%, from one out of four in 1995 to two out of five in the current survey. There has also been a very slight increase of 2% in those who officiate in churches or chapels where Christian symbols are visible. While the 1995 survey reported a significant decrease both in respondents who require the rabbi to be the only officiant and those who require a commitment to establish a Jewish home and/or raise children as Jews, both conditions have returned to approximately the same percentages as in 1982, 1986 and 1990. There appears to be no simple explanation for what seems to be an aberration in the 1995 survey. What is consistent is that Reconstructionist rabbis continue to maintain a more traditional stance than their Reform colleagues with respect to the conditions under which they are willing to officiate (see Table 4).

TABLE 4

CONDITIONS OF OFFICIATING 1982-1999

SELECTED CONDITIONS 1982 1986 1990 1995

1999

CCAR CCAR CCAR/RRA CCAR/RRA CCAR RRA CCAR/RRA
% % % % # % # % # %
Commitment to establish Jewish home and/or raise children as Jews 68 67 65 43 239 68 36 86 273 70
Rabbi to the only officiant 62 59 62 44 211 60 28 67 238 61
Participate with non-Jewish clergy 38 31 31 27 140 40 13 31 151 39
Officiate in a church or chapel where Christian symbols are visible 6 9 9 8 38 11 1 2 39 10

The data confirm a trend that has been documented since the first Rabbinic Center survey in 1971. The percentage of rabbis who refer to other rabbis continues to increase gradually, at the same time that the percentage of rabbis who will not refer continues to decline. Nonetheless, the percentage of rabbis who officiate at intermarriages now appears to be on the decline. Having peaked at 50% for both surveys in the 1980s, it has now dropped to percentages comparable to the 1970s. One may speculate that the Reform and Reconstructionist rabbinate is becoming more traditional in its approach to officiating at intermarriages, at the same time that it tends to do more reaching out to intermarried couples, both before and after marriage. This trend may reflect the attempt of more traditionally oriented rabbis to respond empathically to the desires and needs of Jewish laity. From the comments of many colleagues it is apparent that Reform and Reconstructionist rabbis are increasingly seeking creative ways to be affirming and supportive of couples at the time of their ceremony. This may also explain why more and more rabbis are now willing to officiate with non-Jewish clergy, in spite of strong rabbinic pressure to declare this kind of ceremony out of bounds. In general, the liberal rabbinate seems to be able to apply, more than at any time in the past, the principle of .**( .*%-! *9"$ &-!& &-! to those with whom they differ on the issue of officiating at intermarriages.

 

 

Summary of Rabbinic Center for Research and Counseling 1995 Survey

December 29, 1995 Irwin H. Fishbein, Rabbi, D. Min.

This survey has a threefold purpose:  1) to determine the present position of the Reform and Reconstructionist rabbinate on officiating at intermarriages, 2) to compare data with previous Rabbinic Center surveys and 3) to update the list of rabbis who officiate at intermarriages.  A questionnaire with four levels of participation and non_participation in intermarriage ceremonies and eighteen conditions of officiating was sent by first class mail to 1794 rabbinic members of the Central Conference of American Rabbis (CCAR) and of the Reconstructionist Rabbinical Association (RRA).  Of this number, 1651 are members of the CCAR and 167 are members of the RRA.  Twenty-four rabbis belong to both organizations.  

Of the 710 respondents, representing a 40% response rate, 334 or 47% officiate at intermarriages under specified conditions, 274 or 39% do not officiate but are willing to refer to rabbis who do, and 102 or 14% neither officiate nor refer.  A comparison of CCAR and RRA respondents indicates that CCAR members officiate more frequently (48% compared to 38%) but that, when  categories of officiation and referral are combined, 89% of RRA members refer compared with 86% of CCAR members (see Table 1).

TABLE 1  

COMPARISON OF CCAR AND RRA RESPONDENTS 1995

POSITION CCAR RRA CCAR/RRA TOTAL
# % # % # %
OFFICIATE

318

48

24

38

334

47

REFER

245

37

32

51

274

39

DO NOT REFER

96

15

7

11

102

14

TOTAL RESPONDENTS

659

100

63

100

7101

100

1 The total number of respondents, as well as the total number for each position, differs from the sum of CCAR and RRA respondents because the affiliation of three respondents is not known and fourteen respondents belong to both organizations.

Of the 334 rabbis who officiate, 231 or 69% were willing to have their names on the list of C.C.A.R. and R.R.A. Rabbis Who Officiate at Intermarriages, while 103 or 31% requested that their names not be on the list.  The list contained 220 rabbis in 1990, 202 in 1986, 178 in 1982, 159 in 1978, 119 in 1973, 78 in 1971 and 61 in 1969.  Since 1969 the number of rabbis on the list has more than quadrupled, while the number of Reform and Reconstructionist  rabbis has not quite doubled (see Table 2).

TABLE 2  

RESPONDENTS WHO OFFICIATE AT INTERMARRIAGES 1982-1995

 

POSITION

1982

1986

1990

1995

CCAR

CCAR

CCAR/RRA

CCAR

RRA

CCAR/RRA

#

%

#

%

#

%

#

%

#

%

#

%

LIST

178

61

202

73

220

62

221

69

17

71

231

69

NON-LIST

115

39

76

27

135

38

97

31

7

29

103

31
TOTAL RESPONDENTS

293

100

278

100

355

100

318

100

24

100

3341

100

1 The total number of respondents, as well as the total number for each position, differs from the sum of CCAR and RRA respondents because the affiliation of three respondents is not known and fourteen respondents belong to both organizations.

Of the 710 respondents, 334 or 47% officiate, compared to 44% in 1990 and 50% in 1986 and 1982; 274 or 39% refer, compared to 38% in 1990, 32% in 1986 and 31% in 1982; and 96 or 14% do not refer, compared to 18% in 1990 and 1986 and 19% in 1982.  The historical data show that a small but a steady increase in the percentage of rabbis who are willing to refer to other rabbis and a corresponding decrease in the percentage of rabbis who do not refer (see Table 3).

 

TABLE 3  

COMPARISON OF CCAR AND RRA RESPONDENTS 1982-1995

 

POSITION

1982

1986

1990

1995

CCAR

CCAR

CCAR

RRA

CCAR/RRA

CCAR/RRA

#

%

#

%

#

%

#

%

#

%

#

%

OFFICIATE

293

50

278

50

355

46

23

34

355

44

334

47

REFER

180

31

174

32

265

38

34

52

302

38

274

39

DO NOT REFER

109

19

100

18

129

18

8

13

141

18

102

14

TOTAL RESPONDENTS

582

100

552

100

729

100

65

100

798

100

710

100

Compared to the 1990 survey, there has been a 4% decrease in respondents who participate with non_Jewish clergy and a very slight decrease of 1% in those who officiate in churches where Christian symbols are visible.  However, two categories have changed significantly.  C.C.A.R. respondents who require a commitment to establish a Jewish home and/or raise children as Jews have decreased from 64% in 1990 to 42% in the current survey and those who require the rabbi to be the only officiant have decreased from 62% to 43%.  The present survey indicates that, while the percentages in these two categories have declined for Reconstructionist rabbis, the decline has been much more gradual than for Reform rabbis.  Reconstructionist rabbis continue to maintain a more traditional stance than their Reform colleagues with respect to these two conditions (see Table 4).

 

TABLE 4  

CONDITIONS OF OFFICIATING 1982-1995

SELECTED CONDITIONS 1982 1986 1990

1995

CCAR CCAR CCAR RRA CCAR RRA CCAR/RRA
% % % % # % # % # %
Commitment to establish Jewish home and/or raise children as Jews 68 67 64 70 133 42 15 63 142 43
Rabbi to the only officiant 62 59 62 70 137 43 16 67 146 44
Participate with non-Jewish clergy 38 31 109 31 86 27 7 29 90 27
Officiate in a church or chapel where Christian symbols are visible 6 9 31 9 26 8 1 4 26 8

The data suggest that the number of rabbis who refer to other rabbis is increasing and that significantly fewer rabbis require, as a condition of officiating, that children be raised as Jews or that the rabbi be the only officiant.  This can be understood as the struggle of a more traditionally minded rabbinate to respond empathically to a more acculturated, less committed Jewish laity.  Because RRA members characteristically operate from a more traditional base, their officiating less frequently than CCAR members or requiring more frequently a commitment to Judaism as a condition of officiating is understandable.  What may be more difficult to understand is that Reconstructionist rabbis are more likely than Reform rabbis to seek out ways of  accommo-dating a couple by referral and, consequently, seem to have less difficulty in affirming the validity of those with whom they differ.  This may possibly be attributable to the philosophical legacy of Mordecai Kaplan, whose concept of Judaism as a civilization affirmed the validity of different ways of embracing Jewish tradition and whose search for an authentic American Judaism broke down traditional patterns of responding and opened up new areas for dialogue and reaching out.

 

Summary of Rabbinic Center for Research and Counseling 1990 Survey

December 30, 1990  Irwin H. Fishbein, Rabbi, D. Min.

The purpose of this survey is twofold:  1) to determine the present position of the Reform and Reconstructionist rabbinate on officiating at intermarriages and to compare data with previous Rabbinic Center surveys and 2) to update the list of rabbis who officiate at intermarriages.  A questionnaire with four levels of participation and non_participation in intermarriage ceremonies and 18 conditions of officiating was sent by first class mail to 1691 rabbinic members of the Central Conference of American Rabbis (CCAR) and of the Reconstructionist Rabbinical Association (RRA).  Of these, 1554 are members of the CCAR and 152 are members of the RRA.  Fifteen rabbis belong to both organizations.

 Of the 798 responses, representing a response rate of 47.2%, 355 or 44.5% officiate at intermarriages under specified conditions, 302 or 37.8% do not officiate but are willing to refer to rabbis who do, and 141 or 17.7% neither officiate nor refer.  A comparison of RRA and CCAR respondents indicates that RRA members officiate less frequently (34.3% compared to 46.0%) but that a larger percent of RRA respondents (52.2% compared to 36.4%) are willing to refer (see Table 1).

TABLE 1

COMPARISON OF CCAR AND RRA RESPONDENTS 1990

POSITION CCAR RRA TOTAL
# % # % # %
OFFICIATE 335 46 23 34 355 44